A Lesson Instead of Resolutions, Plus 2016 Style Goals

A twist from making New Years resolutions!  Screw them; let me instead share my most major lesson of 2015.  Yes I’m a bit late to the party, but I’ve been putting off writing this because 2015 just wasn’t a very good year for me.  Denial!

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top: Urban / shorts: AEO / bag: Marcbymarcjacobs

A Lesson in Relationships

Being in the fashion industry I’m as materialistic as they come and I have no problems saying it out loud – in fact, if I’m not, I wouldn’t be very good at my day job.  I love my clothes, I love my shoes, and I love rolling around on the closet floor that’s full of my favorite things when I’m too lazy to hang them up.

But I consider my friendships priceless.

Throughout 2015 I encountered many attempts to put a price on one of mine, and I found myself thinking about the nature of that relationship.  Friendships are the results of 2 parties having mutual affection in its interactions with each other.  Most would agree that a good friendship is balanced; how much you get out of it depends on how much you put in.  There exists a mutual understanding and caring that goes beyond simple association.  But when one party doesn’t see it that way, how do you deal?  When he or she sees your friendship as a materialistic one, one that they can pay off and feel they owe you absolutely no time of day after what they would consider debts repaid, the relationship is broken.

The off balance relationship felt like one giant void of karmatic nothingness in which I was depositing into on a regular basis; it saddened me and left a sour and bitter bite on my mind and soul.  I took a long hard look at myself; maybe I was expecting too much.  If I offer my time and talents for free in the name of friendship, then maybe I deserve nothing back.

Who am I kidding, that’s bullshit.

Therefore, my lesson – you cannot control the cards you are dealt, but you can make decisions on how to play them.  I cannot control the action of others, but I certainly can control my own reactions.  Have more confidence in my own actions and talents, and stop letting others place value on something that deserves no price tag.  And never align yourself to values through the eyes of others.  The relationships dear to me will always remain priceless, and nothing will change that.

2016 Style Goals

Anyway, life does go on.  Let’s move on to the fashion side of things, 2016 winter style goals featuring oversized silhouettes, monochrome palettes, and minimalism.

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Culottes be chic in over sized silo

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A Story of Me, Myself, and I – Behind the Scenes of Shop Inconnue, and My Bag of Tricks!

Happy Monday friends!  I do apologize for the lack of posts last week, been kind of working through a inspirational block and also trying to recover from life’s mental exhaustion. I finally triggered the purchase of the Sony NEX 5TL from Amazon.  I’ve been eyeing it for awhile since it’s a straight up steal for this tech at $350.  $350!!  I purchased my first gen of these Sony compact DSLRs (NEX C3) at $450 on sale, for crying out loud.  The reason behind this purchase is my inspiration for today’s post.

Upgrades ya?

Upgrades ya?

It’s a pain running a one woman show.  I’m in sort of a unique situation due to some recent real life events (like, picking up and moving cross country twice in 3 years) and I don’t really have anyone around to help me take pictures of my products on myself.  Sad life, I know.  But I’ve gotten compliments on the photos I do manage to snap and put up over on my pop up store House of Inconnue featuring me myself and I, and people wonder how I get good results on my own.  First of all I’m absolutely floored that people like my photos, I’m still in the phase where I just try not to cringe when I look at them.  Well ladies and gents, here are my bag of tricks, and I hope it can help you if you’re struggling to get good polished results on your own.

The Camera

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Cell phone shot. Sorry, not the best, but look how tiny!

A compact system DSLR:  Find a good deal on one with the functions you want, and buy it.  It doesn’t even need to be a new one; they update so fast nowadays it’s ridiculous.  They’re light, powerful, and perfect for bloggers on the go and at home.  Get in a store and play with one; you’ll see what I mean.  They will blow your mind.  This can take a bit of research though as there are just a ton of options out there.  Just make sure the one you get has the functions that will suit your needs, poke around for a good used one if you want to save money, and start flipping through a photography book/blog for some tips.  I upgraded to the NEX 5T because of the flip up screen and wireless on the go transfer, and I really loved the first gen NEX C3 I had, so I stuck with Sony.

Why hello there!

Why hello there!

I’ve seen great used NEXs at around $250.  Amazon carries a good selection of used, also check out B&H, good source for photography all around.

A Good Work Area

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Hey don’t laugh. This is where the magic happens!

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